You are about to hear the sound of millions of men rushing home to place their wives and girlfriends on suicide watch: The "Hollywood Reporter" says RYAN GOSLING was the first choice for the lead in "50 Shades of Grey" . . . and he TURNED IT DOWN. Why? He simply wasn't interested. GARRETT HEDLUND from "Tron: Legacy" and "Friday Night Lights" also turned them down. And we all know, of course Wes McKane also turned down the role multiple times.